Tue Inspiration

Morning Inspiration with Pastor Merritt

Let me tell you something I’ve learned in decades of being a pastor. Every couple wants their marriage to work out before the wedding, but a lot of couples don’t want to work on the marriage after the wedding. Today, more and more couples choose not to work out their problems, but to walk out of the marriage. I see a lot of men today that want to treat their marriage like a car. They want to drive it until it breaks down and then trade it in for another model.

The One who created marriage and the One who should be tying the knot realized that the rope of marriage does get frayed and that there would be conflict and friction that could cause the rope of matrimony to snap. He also knows there are only two people who ultimately can keep that rope from fraying and snapping and that is the husband and the wife. Just as it takes two to have a marriage, it takes two to hold a marriage together. A disciple that we know was married, because Jesus healed his mother in-law of a fever, named Peter, gives to both a wife and a husband divine advice on how to deal with a frayed relationship.

“Likewise, wives, be subject to your own husbands, so that even if some do not obey the word, they may be won without a word by the conduct of their wives.” (1 Peter 3:1)

As we look at this passage of scripture you will notice immediately ladies that he talks to the wife first. Not only that, but he talks to the wife most. We are going to spend six verses looking at the wife and only one verse looking at the husband.

Before your blood pressure goes up, Peter is actually paying the wives a compliment. I have learned first hand if you want something done and done right give it to a woman. In every family I’ve ever known, the glue that holds that family together is not the dad, but the mom. It is not the husband, but the wife.

There is another reason as you will see shortly why Peter deals with the wife first and the simple piece of advice he gives to the wives is this - The way to his heart is through your heart. It is all a matter of focus. Ladies you are going to learn that if you will focus on the inside of you in your marriage, God will take care of the outside of you in your marriage.